Hi everyone,

I’m curious about the implications of posting my own adult videos on public sites. What are the potential legal, personal, and social consequences of doing this? I’ve noticed that some people even show their faces in these videos. How do they manage privacy and safety concerns?

I’d appreciate any insights or experiences you can share. Thank you!

  • FistingEnthusiast@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
    242·
    13 days ago

    I lost a $250k+ per year career

    I never showed my face.

    I moved to a different place and started my life over. Admittedly, I was unhappy with my life as it was, and it pushed me to make a change that was chasing a dream I’d had for ages, but even still…

    My life was literally upended in minutes when I was maliciously outed. Things that I had spent over a decade building came crashing down, and hard

    I’m lucky. I had enough resources behind me, and a set of skills that are in demand. It still took five months to start to get things back on track, and there’s still work to go

    I don’t regret it, but I wouldn’t recommend my experience to anyone, especially someone young, without the ability to recover from such an upheaval as I experienced

    I will almost never tell anyone not to do something. That doesn’t work. I can offer the voice of experience, and tell you about the hard lessons I learnt

    Good luck to you though!

    Ask me whatever you think will help, I won’t sugarcoat anything at all

      • kautau@lemmy.worldEnglish
        6·
        13 days ago

        Maybe identifying a tattoo? I mean also, no idea where OP lived at the time, but many employers are “at will” so they can basically fire you for any reason at any time.

        https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/At-will_employment

        So if the HR person just didn’t like you, they could fire you and just say that there were rumors you were producing adult content on the side.

      • FistingEnthusiast@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
        6·
        13 days ago

        It was someone who I had worked with who recognised a tattoo or something. I don’t know who

        I don’t live somewhere where I could be fired on a whim, like so many awful parts of the US, but the company was worried about “reputational damage” so they were going to make life difficult.

        I hated the job, so I walked out (after making sure that they would pay me everything I was owed, which was tens of thousands of dollars in entitlements)

        The guys who I worked with were celebrating me, I walked out of that place a living legend.

    • Hangout7287@lemmy.caOPEnglish
      3·
      13 days ago

      Thank you for sharing your perspective. I’ve been struggling to find meaning in my life and feel like I lack any particular talents. I was considering posting adult videos online, but your comment has given me a lot to think about.

      • FistingEnthusiast@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
        3·
        13 days ago

        I do it because I enjoy it

        I know I’m not going to make any money.

        It makes me laugh, it gives me an outlet for my exhibitionism, I like it when someone gets off on it, and when my woman reads the supportive comments from people about our couple’s content, she enjoys it a lot

        You’re going to have to ask yourself what you think it’s going to give you

        Because it will cost you, it’s not easy. The stuff that I create is actually quite a lot of work to make safe when I’m doing the more extreme stuff

        • Hangout7287@lemmy.caOPEnglish
          3·
          13 days ago

          Okay, I understand that creating adult videos can have significant costs and is not as easy as I initially thought. Are there any real-world consequences to consider when both partners show their faces in their adult videos? From your experience ?

          • FistingEnthusiast@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
            13·
            13 days ago

            I already told you that someone can decide to share your images without your consent

            They can put them anywhere, they can pretend to be you

            They can send them to your family, your friends, your colleagues, your employers

            I don’t know how much more clear I can possibly be