Don’t think I’d last very long between those boobs…

Looking through a mail order catalog and going into the ladies swimwear section awoke something in me. Also the first time I tried wearing a speedo, it gave me an instant erection.

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Thanks. That’s given me a lot to think about.

I remember you too!

The worry I have about finding an escort online is the possibility of being scammed, robbed or encountering a trafficked sex worker. I also don’t know what a good or bad price is for one. Prices I’ve seen have gone from around £100/hour for incalls to some being several times more expensive than that. It’s why I’ve honestly thought about going to the Netherlands or Germany, where there are actually legal and regulated brothels.

and another straight up snogged me. Never in my life did I think I would ever be snogged like that.

Reminds me of a Hinge date I went on a few years back that went incredibly well. We had cocktails, then I awkwardly pulled a chat up line which led to us snogging for about an hour straight. I couldn’t crash at her place that night because she was staying with her sister and had to head to work immediately the next morning, but she invited me to come to her place in the next town over.

Then about three days later, she pulled the whole ‘sorry, this isn’t gonna work out, I didn’t mean to lead you on’ crap.

Other than that, closest I honestly came to losing my virginity was with a (MtF) trans lady who I met on Okcupid, who I sexted a lot with. She flaked on me shortly after we met and went full ghost afterwards.

I think online dating apps are meant to be soul destroying by design. Finding success is bad for business because it means you’ll delete the app and won’t get suckered in to paying the same cost of several MMO subscriptions for premium.

What hookup apps exist for straight people? Only one I’m aware of is Adult Friend Finder and I’ve heard that one is pretty expensive and seems shady as fuck.

I have considered looking at sex/swinger parties but wouldn’t know how to go looking for them. I also thought swinger communities would only be for existing couples looking to open up their relationship, not single people.

Unfortunately lemmy is not like other fediverse platforms that allow hiding domains, so if you decide to peek at the /instances page to view what has been blocked do not interact or visit the instances we have defederated from as more than quite a few are known to host genuine illegal content. You have been warned.

I took a glance at the list, and the amount of blocked instances that straight-up mention pedo shit in their URL makes me sick.

To be honest this is going to be a growing issue. Lemmy World already had to disable image hosting and shut down the LemmyShitpost community because spammers from other instances were straight-up overloading the community with tonnes of CP.

I think it would be wise to approach federation from a whitelist rather than a blacklist perspective. Require trusted communities to opt in to be federated with you.

Definitely back for me. Your ass makes the lingerie look good.

Actually in the same boat as you. 31 here, haven’t done the deed yet and I’m seriously considering going down the escort route.

My dating experiences have ranged from bad to terrible. Ladies here tend to be incredibly frigid.

Here in the UK, prostitution is legal but many things commonly associated with the sex industry (brothels, pimping, kerb crawling, soliciting sex in a public place) are criminalised. But I still think I’d rather go to the Netherlands or Germany since they have fully regulated sex industries.

I mean I don’t get foot worship, but I would not say no to a footjob.

I don’t get the obsession with wanting as many communities as possible federated with LemmyNSFW. Nobody’s going to use their account from another instance to post here…

https://spankbang.com/83z48/video/f+010

The vid has everything I want. Dry humping, swimsuits, femdom.

Tinder and any other platform owned by Match Group is just as bad.

Had a lady I connected with on Okcupid go psycho on me a few months back and bombard me with harassing messages across multiple accounts because I wasn’t replying to her quickly enough on Telegram. I had to email customer support to get them to ban her. They gave me a month of free premium as an apology.

Premium confirmed my suspicions. Nearly all of my matches were ladies from different continents who were spoofing their location - either to pull off love scams (easily identified when you run a GIS/Tineye search and find out their pics have been stolen from social media) or to find a Western spouse and the means to a green card.

I don’t bring this up out of any kind of prejudice. I just don’t want a long-distance relationship with a woman who lives thousands of miles away on another continent, and I hate it when people break the TOS to try and match with others halfway across the world. Did a LDR with a Japanese uni student before and she ditched my ass the moment she finally came to the UK on a transfer year. Even then in the event that it does work out, I also know people who have married foreign spouses and have been intensively grilled and interrogated about their relationship by the Home Office. I don’t want to have to hand the British government months/years worth of private messages because they’re trying to crack down on mail order brides.

Match really do not give a flying fuck about policing their platforms. The platforms that don’t have a website and force you to use a smartphone app are downright unusable because you can’t really do a Tineye or Google Image Search to filter out fake profiles and find out how many Instagram and Weibo profiles they’ve stolen pics from.

Same here. I also find the thought of a guy losing control and nutting in his pants hot.

Need a seat? My face is free…

Ideally before. Getting seriously into it can make you feel sweaty, plus it’s a good idea to wash afterwards.

This may be a core reason why I’ve struggled with relationships and haven’t even lost my virginity yet, but I’m not a flirty person at all. It takes a lot for me to even show basic levels of physical affection with a lady that I’m seeing, which just gives off the impression that I’m not into them at all.

Much of it is down to me being autistic, but also past trauma from school. I was bullied a lot. Among other things, there were girls who used to come on to me as a prank then laugh in my face if I dare took them seriously.

Make flirty remarks about their outfits being attractive

I don’t even do that, because I’ve had it drummed in my head that if you make such remarks, ladies will just think you’re trying to get in their pants. Also, it’s not necessarily the fear of rejection that gets me, it’s the fear of being creepzoned.

Where would you personally draw the line between “flirty” and “flirting”?

Hard to say.

I met a lady on Hinge last year who made it clear she wasn’t attracted to me but thought I was cool and wanted to hang out as friends. I knew going into it that she was quite a physically affectionate person, and even then I still kinda got the wrong idea when she placed her arm around me and cuddled into me while we were walking. Like… the physical contact alone gave me a boner and I’m actually relieved she didn’t look down to see me pitching a tent…

I’d buy/play a lot more of them if I could hide adult-only games from my Steam profile. The problem is everybody would know I was a pervert if I even bought one.

There are a few I’ve been interested in, like Tower of Succubus, Quickie: A Love Hotel Story, and another I don’t quite remember the name of.

I’m far more likely to be interested in a game if there’s scenes that cater to my kinks, i.e. femdom, leotards, bondage.

Another issue is aged up variants of characters where their canonical age is way below 18 but the art depicts them as above it.

Here’s a better way of thinking about it. Isn’t it alarming that the moment Game Freak release artwork of a new female playable character, every rule-34 artist is rushing to draw aged-up lewd art of them? All but one main series Pokémon game has you playing a ten-year-old, with Black/White being the only exception where Hilbert and Hilda are 15…

And another thing I should definitely raise to the admins, current rules of “no aged-up characters” are very inconsistently enforced, if not wholly unenforced on this instance.

One of my biggest gripes with Reddit as a platform is the overabundance of amateur models spamming every single subreddit with the exact same posts to shill their OnlyFans and Fansly profiles, even to the point of posting their content in irrelevant subreddits without consequence. It’s at the point where the admins have all but abandoned the 10% rule for self-promotion.

Will you be implementing a policy to ban self-promotion for profit (and keep communities like Gonewild purely for exhibitionists), or at least encourage professional content creators to actually interact with the community and not astroturf LemmyNSFW with adverts for their OF like they’ve done with Reddit?