“Crying like a bitch” does not refer to women at all, it refers to a female dog. The full phrase is “crying like a bitch in heat” and refers to the whining female dogs do when they’re in heat.

there were also times i’d call out a racist and they’d edit their comment to make it look like i’d called out as racist someone who was saying something totally innocuous.

This is why you I pretty much always quote what I’m replying to.