Cynical and bitter mutualist & consequentialist. I hate accelerationists and their apologists as much as I hate fascists.

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  • HalfSalesman@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldWriting
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    4 days ago

    Writing start to finish vs writing the end and going backwards.

    First is all about having characters and just seeing what they do in a situation the author throw’s them into. Not great for having a good ending unless you are really clever, lucky, or willing to just keep writing until you naturally hit a solid end point. However, it is good for having memorable characters usually and can enable an excellent hook or high concept.

    The opposite, where you write the ending and work backwards in time, usually ensures a high quality plot but can risk making character’s flat or uninteresting unless you put in a ton of extra work to make sure they’re interesting or fleshed out. And also can make it difficult to hook readers and might result in a more mundane/average overall concept.





  • I wasn’t told I was gifted, though I was told I was “Smart but undisciplined/lazy” by my dad all the time. Who seemed more angry that I was undisciplined than proud that I was smart.

    Turns out I am just autistic. And while I’m smart about random but highly specific things I had (and arguably still have) no attention or patience for stuff outside my hyper fixations.

    Also I interview terribly. Every job search has taken ages, but once I get a job I always end up making my bosses very happy with my performance.

    I have a fairly middle of the road job for where I live miraculously but that’s probably because the lady who hired me was very pregnant and on her way out to maternity leave and wanted to be done looking for a new admin assistant. I’m definitely underemployed though.




  • HalfSalesman@lemmy.worldtoComic Strips@lemmy.worldHow it feels
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    8 days ago

    For me, I do kind of think that if someone paid and then forgiveness happened, they ought to be at least partially compensated if they have any history of being low income. They could have put their loan payments into something else but they didn’t so they’d kind of end up screwed over by their slavishly responsible bill paying.

    That said: its stupid to not want broad student loan forgiveness because the student loan crisis is literally damaging the economy. Its hurting everyone, even people who already paid their loans off.






  • HalfSalesman@lemmy.worldtoMemes@sopuli.xyzJust reach out
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    10 days ago

    Even if you aren’t treating people to stuff you still end up spending money. Just being out and about costs gas in the US because everything is so spread out. You get hungry and need to eat, there’s 10-20 bucks unless you’re lugging around a lunch box with you.

    You want to socialize every once and a while it’ll add up. If you want to socialize consistently (which is key to establishing strong friendships or finding a significant other) you honestly need to be touching grass everyday and then it really adds up.

    Also, pay attention to my words: Trying to maintain this is unsustainable in the US. I did not say it was impossible to do once in a blue moon, but that’s not really a meaningful social life. Seeing a person for an hour once every few weeks to play frisbee at the park (or equivalent activity, in my case board games) isn’t going to create a meaningful bond. Most people in my area make maybe a little over half what I make in pay at best and I can barely afford to socialize consistently. I currently do almost all my socializing at work and that shit doesn’t really count. I used to spend a lot more and had an actually fulfilling social life, but atm I’m trying to save money.


  • HalfSalesman@lemmy.worldtoMemes@sopuli.xyzJust reach out
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    10 days ago

    You can do nice things for people that aren’t expensive.

    It is easy to say this but hard to execute. If you treat people to things that are gratis or cheap a lot of people will think you are a cheapskate or miserly. At best they’ll think you are poor which also isn’t great either, because even good people don’t want to feel like they’re potentially getting into a relationship that expects them to spend more money than the friend to go out and do things with them (unless, again, they’re rich and don’t care about spending a bunch of money).

    If you dress nicely go out to hang with people but skimp out on spending money people will definitely think you are a miser or penny pincher. If you go out looking like a pauper or poor schlub people will generally just avoid you. I’ve done both.


  • HalfSalesman@lemmy.worldtoMemes@sopuli.xyzJust reach out
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    10 days ago

    The meme does not only suggest a conversation is needed. It implies money is needed. “Going with the flow” in the US TBH probably will cause the average person to spend an irresponsible amount of money. I know because I’ve done that and burned a number of holes in my wallet in pursuit of friends (and intimacy). Sure it works plenty of times, but its not sustainable unless you’ve got plenty of money to burn. Most people don’t.



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    10 days ago

    Reach out and spend wads of money on someone. Its cool he did that but this assumes this is a sustainable means of making friends and it just isn’t.

    US society is simply not structured in a way for adults to naturally make friends and it verges on being outright antagonistic to making close friends.



  • I did not choose to be here and I resent that there are expectations put upon me when I wasn’t the reason I am here now.

    I also resent that I was born just to die one day.

    It is also fundamentally horrifying that so many people are born into painful awful experiences and then die, with that being more or less mostly all they knew while alive. And that some people live happy lives on its own doesn’t justify the horror in my eyes at all.

    That said, I wish I could be drunk right now but I’m at work.