I have kids that I raise, they are great kids, I love them to death but if someone thinks kids aren’t a burden (of any sort) than they’re lying.
I’m convinced that having kids causes a brain chemistry change that makes parents willing to deal with their children. Otherwise, the majority of people would never have kids or abandon them shortly after birth.
My mom says babies are cute because otherwise more would end up in dumpsters.
She also told me she didn’t like kids. I asked her why she had so many, then? “Well, I like you all NOW, I knew you would grow up.”
Which, while sort of a mean thing for her to say, I think does make sense - people always say they don’t want kids, understandable, but kids are just young humans, you were a kid too. You aren’t having kids, you are growing people. Adults.
Solution: don’t have kids
Solution two: use protection
Burden is the first thing that’s pops in my head when I think of children
Idk how unpopular this is. Everyone I’ve ever talked to said that children are a burden. Of course they are. It’s hard work to grow plant, lol, and these are whole people. The acronym DINK exists for a reason. That said, it’s a worthwhile burden. I love being a parent.
Who have you met that said raising kids isn’t a burden?
Yup.
I’ve got two (5,1). I absolutely adore them both, but I’d be lying if I said that having kids hasn’t made my life significantly harder, my mental health significantly worse and my sense of self significantly weaker.
Children ARE a burden but entitled parents are a bigger burden.
I live them to death
Is that a typo or the unpopular part?
I went to a Nerd Night where a positive psychologist shared about PERMA, a break down of the pillars of being happy: Positive Emotion, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, and Accomplishment.
Her take on kids (based on her research) was that P,E,R, and A definitely take a hit, but parents consistently had the highest happines when it came to Meaning in their life. Overall advice on the question of “Do kids make you more happy than no kids?” was “It really depends on the person.”
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Who tf thinks they aren’t a burden, how is this an unpopular opinion?
Trust me, there are people who think it’s a sin to use the word “burden” when speaking of kids. They are insane IMO
Sounds like they have the unpopular opinion
All humans are a burden
Amen, fellow misanthropist.
The benefit of kids is that on average they become less of a burden over time. meanwhile adults, especially of certain generations klinging to the means of production, power and denying political change necessary to keep the earth livable, are just becoming more of a fucking burden for everyone else every god damn year and they also act all smug about it.
Give them up. Plenty people will take them off your hands, and next time use contraception.
You are lucky your parents didn’t think like that lol
