It happens all the time! Probably more often than actual sexual threesoms and likely more often after one!
me against my wife
me and my wife against her boyfriend
me, my wife, and my wife’s boyfriend against the stranger who just butted in with “Actually…”
You’d have a blast as a child of divorced parents
Could be worse, could be child of parents that should really get divorced, but don’t because of the kids
? So I’ve been separated from my ex for over a year, and we’ve argued exactly 3 times.
My son is even mad that we don’t fight anymore and we now can move back in together because we’re happy again.
Then don’t feel the need to take my comment personal
I guess I wasn’t taking it personally rather I was surprised this was your experience. More often than not ive heard from friends their lives got much easier without the two of them arguing all the time after they separated.
That means you have a good social circle 😄 I mean eventually it gets easier for everyone but the divorce itself is often brutal for kids if the parents start arguing about money, custody and so on. Kids often see it as their responsibility to mediate between their parents and end up in the crossfire. It’s unfortunately quite common, there are entire books about it.
Your experience absolutely isn’t universal. There are millions of us with mental health issues directly related to our parents divorce and their behavior after separating.
It’s super common for parents to use their children as middlemen in their arguments once they’re separated, as well as trying to turn the child against the other parent.
I’m glad your divorce was different, though.
Most of the time you can’t just join a couple having sex either…
Like, if you just stumbled across a couple people doing the sideways tango in the woods; they probably aren’t going to just let you strip down and join in.
If you don’t want people to join in, don’t have sex in public!
Hey, if you didn’t want my cock inside you, you shouldn’t have pointed your ass at me when I’m hiking.
I believe you are talking about couples therapy.
If an argument is in public it’s fair game.
You can. The problem is that you can never tell what the outcome will be.
You pick the right argument and the right couple : sex
You pick the wrong one : bullet
There’s a lot in between those two, and you’re rolling the dice
Win-win
Either way there’s a possibility of dying doing what you love.
Consent is everything.
You never get invited to join a couple’s argument? It’s never fun and you should always decline.
Yeah, based on parties I attended in my twenties: I can testify that while reality show couple fights are usually exaggerated, that stuff actually does happen.
This sounds like an actual nightmare
Possibly, but I also honestly find it an interesting idea.
The way it is described it doesn’t sound like they recommend doing it with total strangers but have a conflict/discussion with a group that can chime in but is not focused on resolving the conflict but more processing it together. And honestly I think for some people that could be a good way to potentially learn and hone their way of speaking to each other.
I also really like the contra-culture idea they establish that conflict does not have to be uncontrollable and that we are responsible and accountable for our behaviour in conflict. So I think this could be an experience where you are able to air things that unsettle you while reaffirming that you bring it up because you care about the other person.
But I‘m sure this is not for everyone and is most likely a potentially energy intense way. I think the meme as well is more aimed in: I wanna butt in and say my piece without really having skin in the game.
It makes me feel like an old fashioned sitcom dad, because I fully believe it could be a healthy and positive thing for individuals and the group dynamic, but I don’t want any part of it.
“Daddy, chill.”
Have you tried asking the couple for their consent? If they like it, why not?
that’s what the internet is for, it’s all one big threesome
An orgy?
No, a big threesome
There we go, one of the many times I see a divorce starting at Safeway I just hop in, like “yeah Rob, maybe you should be helping with the dishes”.
This is why I’m training as a couples therapist
